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  • FamilyMeans Anxiety Support for Students

    Posted by Alicia Kirkman on 11/6/2020
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  • World Mental Health Day

    Posted by Alicia Kirkman on 10/7/2020



    October 10th is World Mental Health Day, a time dedicated to creating awareness about mental health issues around the world. This year, each and every one of us is experiencing more challenges as a result of Covid-19. That is why now, more than ever before, it is important to take inventory of your own mental health and work towards making improvements for a healthier life.

    Follow the guide below, provided by FamilyMeans therapists, to help in taking inventory of your mental health. This is great practice for children as well, and as a parent you can support them by reading the steps aloud and helping them to understand the feelings and emotions that may arise. 

    1. Find a comfortable space where you can lay down. Perhaps this is your bed, couch, or even the floor with a few pillows. Move around a bit to get comfortable. Then lay still with your hands on your stomach or chest. 


    1. Focus on your breathing. Take a big, deep breath and hold for three seconds, exhale completely, pushing all the air out of your lungs. Do this two more times. Feel your hands move up and down on your chest/stomach as you breathe. Take as much time in this step as you wish, connecting with your breath and finding calm.


    1. Now move your attention to your body. Start at the top of your head and move your thoughts down your body until you reach your toes. How does each body part/muscle feel? Do you have any tightness or tension? Are you warm or cold, hungry or thirsty? Feel the heaviness of your body against the bed, couch, or floor. Appreciate your body and what it has done for you today.


    1. What is your emotional state? How are you feeling in this moment, perhaps relaxed or calm? Maybe the weight of the day still lingers, making you feel stress, anxious, or sad. If you are in a good mood spend some time with this feeling; smile and reflect on why you are happy. If you are in a bad mood, take a few more deep breathes and begin to think of ways that you can improve this mood. Maybe taking a bath, going for a walk, or connecting with a friend or family member. 


    1. Slowly begin moving out of this relaxed state by gently moving your fingers and toes, then move up to larger actions such as moving your head back and forth to stretch your neck, and stretching your arms and legs. In your own time, come to a seated position. 


    Reflect on how this exercise made you feel. Do you feel empowered and ready to take on the day? Or did this practice bring up emotions for which you need more support? As we celebrate World Mental Health Day, we hope that you found some time to take inventory of where you are at with your mental health. FamilyMeans provides therapeutic counseling to support children, teens, and adults through any mental health challenge that they face. You are not alone. Visit or call 651-439-4840 to learn more and set-up an appointment today.

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  • Back to School Mental Health Tips

    Posted by Alicia Kirkman on 9/9/2020

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    Back to School Mental Health Tips

    As we begin the new academic year, parents, students, teachers, and school staff are faced with uncertainty and worry.  Whether you are starting school in-person, online, or in a hybrid model, there are added challenges that can affect your mental health. Here are some tips from our clinicians on how to support your mental health during this challenging time.

    In-Person Learning

    Fear/Anxiety Surrounding Contracting COVID-19 – Keep following the good measures that you have been practicing to keep safe (wash hands, wear a mask, socially distance). Limit the information you receive. Too much news can be overwhelming, only take in what is needed from trusted sources. Also, sticking to routine (which includes some time for fun) and maintaining healthy behaviors such as getting enough sleep and eating healthy is important.

    Online Virtual Learning

    Increased Screen TimeTime staring at a screen is not good for our mental or physical health. However, increased screen time is a necessity for online learning. Set boundaries regarding screen time, such as no screen usage 2 hours before bed or for every one hour of screen time, get 10 minutes of physical activity.

    Isolation/Peer-to-Peer InteractionsKeeping relationships with friends and family is so important while we socially distance. They are your support systems and even small interactions can help to combat feelings of isolation/loneliness. Stay connected virtually by planning an online game night, or after school homework session.

    Hybrid Model (part in-person, part online)

    Routine ChangesRoutine is so important to good mental health. Having established bed time and wake times will help you to sleep better and have more energy throughout the day. Keeping the same routine both when you are doing online and in-person learning will help your mental health immensely.

    Coping with ChangeGoing from time together in school to online classes can be hard. Acknowledge this challenge and talk with a trusted person about your feelings surrounding these changes.

    FamilyMeans Counseling & Therapy can help to support the mental health of individuals and families no matter what challenges the new school year brings.

    Did you know that FamilyMeans Counseling & Therapy provides school-based mental health services in 5 school districts on both sides of the St. Croix River?

    Stillwater 834  | North St. Paul/Maplewood/Oak Dale 622  |  Hudson  |  New Richmond  | Prescott


    Supporting the mental health of students is more important now than ever before.


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  • Back to School Tough Decisions

    Posted by Alicia Kirkman on 8/11/2020


    Tough Decisions and the Emotions That Come with Them

    August always has a buzz about it. We all are trying to cram in those last summer activities; stores bustle
    with shoppers buying school supplies; and sports/clubs begin meeting to prep for the new year. There is
    excitement and anticipation in the air. But, this year is different and promises to be like nothing we
    have seen before. As parents, we are feeling stress and anxiety as we try and answer the questions: Do
    we send our kids to school? Do we keep them home? Do we juggle a hybrid option? What if I send my
    kid(s) and they get sick? What if I don’t send my kid(s) and they get further behind in their studies? How
    am I supposed to work with the school schedule in flux? How do we all keep our sanity?
    These are tough questions, and it is overwhelming. You are not alone. Every student, parent, teacher,
    and school staff person is feeling the same way as the school year approaches. There seems to be so
    much pressure to get schools open, yet how are we going to do this safely and productively? How are
    you going to make the best decision for your family?

    The FamilyMeans Counseling & Therapy team urges you to take on these challenges one step at a time.
    You don’t have to make every decision at once, and looking at the bigger picture can be overwhelming.
    Start by gathering information on your specific district and building. Understand the facts and
    requirements, then think about/discuss with trusted others how do you really feel about sending your
    kid(s), or ourselves, back into the building. Trust your gut. No matter what decision you make –which
    feels best for the moment-- you are brave and strong to carry out that decision.

    When it comes to other people’s decisions, be mindful. Each family is faced with these tough decisions,
    and you don’t know all the deciding factors for different families. Maybe there is an underlying health
    condition. Maybe there are older family members for whom they care. Maybe there is fear and anxiety,
    or even anger No matter what the reason for a family’s decision, it is their choice and what works for
    them. Honor it and understand that there is no one-size-fits-all option.

    If you or your family are struggling with these decisions, or the emotions that come along with this
    difficult situation, FamilyMeans is here to help. Our clinical staff can provide individual, couple, or family
    therapy sessions to help you work through life’s challenges such as this. Learn more or set-up an
    appointment today by calling 651-439-4840 or visit!

    Written by Melena Nelson
    Communications Coordinator

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  • Mental Health Guide to Thrive

    Posted by Alicia Kirkman on 7/15/2020

    Mental Health Guide to Thrive



    Express appreciation, journal, 3-5 positives a day.

    Move your Body

    Dance, run, walk, sports, yoga. Get Moving! 

    Limit Media

    Develop a Family Media Plan.

    Create Routine

    Develop daily schedules for meals and sleep.

    Be Intentional

    Choose positivity, self-reflection, active listening.

    Practice Relaxation

    Meditate, calming breaths, listen to music.


    Stay in relationships with friends and family.


    School-based and outpatient Counseling & Therapy services are currently being provided via telehealth by FamilyMeans. If you or your child are in need of support, please contact the School-Based Supervisor, Diane Cragoe at 651-789-4054 or

    Anxiety. Depression. Suicidal thoughts. Isolation. Family pressures. Stress. Real Life Issues.
    Support is here. Contact us today. Insurance or payment plans accepted. No one turned away | 651-439-4840

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  • Mental Health in the Summer

    Posted by Alicia Kirkman on 6/11/2020

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    Mental Health in the Summer

    Last month we talked about checking in with your own mental health and the mental health of your children. As we move into summer, we often see kids, teens, and their families take time away from counseling to enjoy the summertime. But, let’s be real. This summer is like no other summer past. You’ve been cooped up since March, trying to juggle life, work, distance learning, and all that is going on in the world. And the things we normally look forward to in the summer are now either restricted or canceled. Can you say “bummer”?! This summer is the perfect time to focus on the mental health of you and your children/teens. 

    There is a lot of anxiety, worry, stress, feeling hopeless or down, disrupted sleep, and lack of social engagement. These are all symptoms of bigger mental health conditions if left untreated. Clinicians at FamilyMeans are equipped to handle these types of topics, along with many others, in order to help you and your loved ones feel better, even during this most unsettling time. This summer is especially a great time to help children and teens work through any anxieties they may have about the world or the thought of going back to school in the fall. Good mental health takes time and dedication, and in the summer your child might have more time to focus on their mental health. Summer is a perfect moment to begin good practices that will help in the school year ahead. They will be ready to jump in when it is time and conquer anything that life throws them. Please contact us today to set a telehealth appointment, or 651-439-4840! 


    Bonus: Routine is key to good mental health, especially for developing minds. While at home this summer here are some tips for keeping a normal feeling routine: 

    • Have some structure to your day – kids need structure (which a school day usually provides). Keep it loose and flexible but predictable at the same time. If your kids are into artwork – have them help you create a fun artistic calendar for the family.
    • Get a library card and use curbside service
    • Try out the many trails we have here in Minnesota and Wisconsin
    • Build a fort inside on a rainy day
    • Find new virtual tourist attractions and learn about a new place together
    • Be active – get at least 60 minutes of physical activity each day – have a dance party, go for walks, go to the park, play sports, learn a new sport, investigate nature, etc.  
    • Play! Do something fun for yourself, or with your kids – be goofy and run around together 
    • Get outside–each and every day–make it a family outing. Create a scavenger hunt to do while on a walk or watch for birds, plants, or bugs. Make it a game of whoever spots the most wins a prize or the pride of winning.   
    • Limit screen time to two hours or fewer – use these hours wisely. Help teach your kids how to spread out their allotted time throughout a day – if they are younger – create a fun and artistic schedule for them on when they want to use their screen time. 
    • Keep your therapy appointments.  Telehealth calls are available until in-person appointments can resume.
    • Let yourself or your kids have an ‘off’ day – we’re all human and have bad days once in a while – let them have one and work it out of their system. Help them create ways to improve their mood – what makes them happy? Excited? Create a ‘mood box’ of items around the house that helps them improve their mood so when they need ideas they can go to this box for inspiration. 
    • Break the rules! Okay, not all the time, but once in a while. Let your kids see that there is some flexibility within your rules on occasion.
    • Keep all the rules that you set out for your kids for yourself too – model the behaviors you want them to do – it will be hard but you can do it!
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  • Supporting the Mental Health of Students

    Posted by Alicia Kirkman on 5/13/2020

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    Supporting the Mental Health of Students


    As we all continue to work through these challenging times, the mental health of our students remains a top priority. The transition to virtual learning, changes in daily routines, the inability to hold special events like prom and graduation, and more, are producing many new and challenging emotions in our students such as anger, disappointment, and anxiety.  Helping them to work through these emotions is important for their mental health. 

    Did you know that New Richmond Schools have school-based therapists available to provide mental health counseling? And that they are available via tele-health services to provide mental health support to you and your children in the comfort of your home? Contact your student’s guidance counselor for more information and set-up an appointment! 

    Advice from our specialized therapists on ways to support your child’s mental health. 

    Focus on Self-Care
    Changes in routine has likely impacted your child’s self-care practices. Are they getting enough sleep, eating healthy, exercising, spending time off screens, and getting outside? This can be difficult to do! Try out our self-care challenge, a printable guide to help you improve your mental and physical health, great for all ages! 

    Re-Imagine Special Events
    As the school year comes to a close many of the usual special events have been postponed or canceled. Your child may be missing out on a traditional prom, graduation, or simple end of year celebrations. This likely has them feeling disappointed and sad. Get creative in finding ways to celebrate and have fun to help ease the emotions they have. Host a virtual celebration with family/friends, get dressed up and take photos or drive-by family/friends, and create new traditions such as a special meal or outing. 

    Arrange Time with Family and Friends
    Social distancing is hard. Your children may be feeling isolated and lonely. It is important that they find ways to safely connect with people that they are not quarantined with. Help to set-up video calls with their family and friends, encourage letter writing or crafting that they can share with others. 

    Be Open about Your Emotions
    Much of how your children learn to manage their emotions come from watching you, especially at a young age. As age-appropriate, discuss the thoughts and feelings that you are having during this challenging time. It can be helpful for your child to know that you are sad, disappointed, or having anxiety too, and how you are working through these emotions as well. 

    Speak with a Counselor
    Sometimes you need the support of a professional. School-based therapists can help your child in individual sessions, or your family in a group session, to work through the emotions that come with the changes in our world today.

    May is mental health awareness month, and a great time to focus on your family’s mental health. As a mental health support provider in our schools, FamilyMeans provides excellent resources and support to New Richmond families. Find additional resources and learn more by visiting

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  • Guide to Thrive During COVID - 19

    Posted by Alicia Kirkman for Family Means on 4/6/2020

    FamilyMeans continues to provide mental health counseling to students and their families using telehealth while schools remain closed. Reach out to your student’s counselor if you are interested in your student being referred to the school-based therapy program.


    Mental Health Guide to Thrive During COVID-19

    Before reading this, please take a moment, to check-in with your present experience. Close your eyes, take a deep breath in and let it out, shift your weight from side to side, and scan your body from head to toe. What physical sensations do you notice in your body? How is your posture? What emotions are you holding? Do this practice throughout your day. Take a pause and check-in with your current state.

    During this uncertain and challenging time, supporting the mental health of yourself and your child is very important. Many are noticing an increase in stress, tension, fear, worry, anxiety, loneliness, and grief. Others are noticing an opportunity to slow down, the gift of time to connect with those most important, to embrace what is, to be productive, and how Earth is healing. Welcome it all as part of the human experience. 

    To truly thrive during this time, you must be mindful of your daily practices. FamilyMeans Counseling & Therapy has created a daily worksheet to help you and your family practice mindfulness and support your mental health during the COVID-19 crisis.

    Click here for our daily mindfulness worksheet.  

    The worksheet will help you to focus on the following essential topics: 

    GRATITUDE: Practice daily. Shift your mindset, look for the positives. Be of service. Be kind and patient.

    MOVE YOUR BODY: Every day. More than 1x a day! Dance, walk, run, sports, yoga, any exercise.

    LIMIT MEDIA: Check-in with reputable news sources 1-2x a day. Be informed, not obsessed!

    CREATE ROUTINE: For you and your family. Write it down. Hold a schedule.

    BE INTENTIONAL: Have daily goals. Write to-do lists. Choose positive influences. Look for silver linings.

    BE CREATIVE: Daily do art, crafts, make music, cook, bake, write, or journal. 

    GROUND/RELAX: Deep breath. Get outside. Take a salt bath. Exercise. Read. Hug. Laugh. Essential oils.

    HOME BASE: Make home enjoyable. Tidy up. Create separate spaces for work and home school tasks.

    BASIC NEEDS: Sleep more. Drink water. Eat foods rich in nutrients and low in sugar. Take supplements.

    CONNECT: Daily check-in or connect with others. Neighbors, friends, family, and colleagues. Pray.

    KIDS: Give direct, honest, and developmentally appropriate information. Answer questions. Validate. FamilyMeans has parent resources to support you as you work with your child here.

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    Remember, this situation is temporary. Take it day-by-day. The Counseling & Therapy Team at FamilyMeans is here to support via teletherapy. FamilyMeans is following the recommendations of the CDC and local authorities to maintain safety. Please join us in following those recommendations.

    We are all in this together!
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  • Link between Sleep and Your Child’s Mental Health

    Posted by Alicia Kirkman on 3/5/2020

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    The link between Sleep and Your Child’s Mental Health


    The American Academy of Sleep Medicine encourages teens (ages 13-18) to get 8 to 10 hours of sleep each night, and grade-schoolers (ages 6-12) to get 9 to 12 hours nightly. Studies show that children who are getting enough sleep have a healthier immune system, perform better in school, and are cognitively healthier than those who do not. Children can bounce back from a few missed hours here and there, but regular sleep deprivation will lead to difficult behaviors and health problems. If your child is irritable, has difficulty concentrating, depressed, obese, or prone to headaches, sleep deprivation could be the source. 

    When you sleep your brain is reenergizing the body’s cells, clearing waste from the brain, and supporting learning and memory. These processes are especially important for children as they learning and growing. When a child cannot go to sleep at night or wakes up frequently this essential development cannot occur. Some common reasons why a child cannot go to or stay asleep are fear of the dark or nightmares, unwillingness/ability to relax for sleep, or anxiety. 

    FamilyMeans Counseling & Therapy provides tips to get a good night’s sleep and support cognitive health. 

    1. Foster a Good Sleeping Environment 

    • Remove distractions, including cell phones, televisions, and electronic games. Make it a rule that the bed is for sleep only. Studies show that removing electronics at least one hour before bedtime promotes better sleep. 
    • Be sure that the bed/bedding is comfortable. 
    • Keep the noise level down. Play light, relaxing music or no noise at all. 
    • A dark space promotes sleep and production of melatonin (the hormone that regulates sleep and wakefulness). Turn off the lights and draw the curtains closed. For children who may be afraid of the dark, use a small, dim night light. 
    • Turn down the heat. Cooler temperatures help to promote deep sleep. 
    • Essential oils can help to soothe and comfort, lavender and chamomile scents are recommended. 

    2. Establish a Bedtime Routine 

    • Go to bed at the same time each night. Your body will recognize this routine and allow you to go to sleep faster and deeper if you stick with it! 
    • A warm bath or shower within an hour of bedtime can warm your body passively, making it easier to get comfortable and fall asleep faster. 
    • Reduce stress by meditating or reading something calming or uplifting. 
    • Keep a journal. By writing down thoughts, feelings, or stresses you can get them off your mind and leave them for later. 

    *Avoid using a cell phone, tablet, or television to help your child go to sleep. Try some of the activities listed above such as reading, meditation, or journaling instead!

    3. Support Sleep While Awake 

    • Limit naps to 45 minutes.
    • Exercise for 60 minutes each day. Limit intense exercises in the evening and instead practice yoga or other slower activities. 
    • Limit food consumption within two hours of sleep. 
    • Talk with your child’s clinician about sleep concerns. 


    If you are worried about the amount of sleep that your child is getting, how to better promote sleep, and/or if behaviors/change in mood are related to sleep, contact FamilyMeans Counseling & Therapy. A mental health assessment of your child can help to determine the root causes of sleep deprivation and how to make improvements. 


    Written by Melena Nelson
    FamilyMeans School-Based Mental Health
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  • Winter Blues vs. Depressions

    Posted by Alicia Kirkman on 2/5/2020

    Winter Blahs

    Winter Blues or Depression?

    It’s cold and dark outside, the sun hasn’t shined in days, and you are feeling sad, uncomfortable, and down-right irritated. You can see these same frustrations in your child and after weeks of sluggish behaviors and grumpy conversations, you begin to ask yourself “Is this the winter blues or something bigger?” 

    In children, just as in adults, it is very common to feel a change in mood and energy levels during the winter months. Shorter days mean less sunlight, causing internal clocks to get off. This can effect sleeping habits and energy levels. In addition, chilly temperatures often mean staying inside and swaying from regular schedules. And, if done frequently, can negatively affect mental health. 

    So, how do we decipher if these changes in mood and behavior are your average winter blues or something more? FamilyMeans Clinical Director, Erin Rowlson says “Many of the symptoms of Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD), also known as seasonal depression, mirror those of the winter blues. These symptoms can include irritability, changes in sleep habits, difficulty concentrating, changes in appetite, social withdrawal, and more. I recommend having a conversation with your child. Do you get a sense that they are just having an off day(s) or do you sense hopelessness or uncontrollable emotions? As a parent, it is important to trust your gut. If you think your child may be depressed, set-up an appointment to be seen by a professional”. 

    Not sure where to start? Try some of the tips below to help minimize the effects of winter weather on mental health. If you are still seeing signs of depression in your child, set-up an appointment with a therapist. 

    Tips to Combat Winter Blues

    1. Exercise: Keeping active is very important. If you can brave the outdoors to get your daily 60 minutes of movement that is even better! 


    1. Eat healthy: A balanced diet is key in keeping a healthy body, and that effects the mind! Be sure to stay away from sweets, and choose fruits or vegetables. 


    1. Use lights to mimic sun: Turn on lights when getting up in the morning and keep a brightly lit home throughout the day. You can also purchase specialized lamps that provide a glow to give you/your child a daily dose of sunshine. 


    1. Stay social: Attending school, work, and social obligations can seem like a pain on frigid winter days, but getting out of the house, conversing with peers, and staying active can help to combat depression. 


    1. Open up: Talk to your children about how you are handling the winter and feelings you are having. They may be feeling the same way and you can help each other work through it. 


    1. Fun at home: Getting snowed in is a perfect excuse for family time. Plan a movie night or work on a home project.  Don’t feel trapped inside, instead find ways to have fun together!


    FamilyMeans Counseling & Therapy provides school-based mental health services in New Richmond Schools. This means students and families can see a therapist at school, at a time that is convenient for them. Get back to happy. Set-up an appointment today by contacting your child’s school counselor.

    Written by FamilyMeans Counseling & Therapy 


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